I know how it feels to be crying my eyes out, yet again, over someone that I’ve tried to get over but still loved.
Breakups are not only hard, the loss of a relationship can often be just as painful as actually losing a loved one.
It makes sense – this person that you loved so deeply, that was such a huge part of your life, is suddenly gone, unreachable, untouchable.
The loss is real. Don’t let anyone tell you to just get over it.
It’s a loss of the future that you had pictured with him. A loss of the future family that you imagined. A loss of all of those wonderful moments that you believed in your heart of hearts were around the corner.
Although it’s hard to accept at first, this is actually a good sign, going through heartbreak.
It means you have loved someone, you have tried for something real, and you have let life teach you.
To deal with the loss and the hurt your mind begins to try to make sense of what happened. You’ll find yourself making excuses to help answer that massive question: why?
You may tell yourself, “I’m not pretty enough,” or “I’m not successful enough” or “I’m just not lucky in love”.
These are all forms of judgment and can be released.
You may regret something you said or did. Something that cannot be changed.
But I’ve heard another view of losing love…
What if no relationship has ever truly “ended” by a breakup, divorce, or death of a loved one? What if that was just a story we’ve been told?
What if instead, the love between two people lived on as a separate entity from the two people in the relationship…
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